Relationship 101: Where are the Good Men?

Earnest and Roline Thomas

We’ve heard many women ask the question, “where are the good men?” In this present day, we understand the concern. There are men in prisons, men struggling with homosexuality, men with children from multiple women, men unemployed, and men choosing to remain single. Certainly there is not a shortage of men, however, there is a shortage of men who are ready to be husbands.  So where are the good men? Exploring Genesis 2:15-20, the careful observer discovers principles which good men should possess.

God created Adam a man, but He had to prepare him to be a husband. We find Adam working and managing the Garden of Eden.  Through the assignment of cultivating the Garden, God taught Adam responsibility. Every day Adam went to work. This work may have seemed mundane and tedious, but the job was very much needed. There is nothing glamorous about being responsible but it is an integral part of being a good leader. Adam proved to be a RESPONSIBLE leader before becoming a husband.  If a man does not display responsibility before marriage, don’t expect a responsible husband after saying “I do.”

Adam avoided eating from the tree of good and evil as commanded by God. With this lesson God established boundaries for Adam. The lesson was simple. If Adam would not respect God, his creator, He would not be able to respect God’s creation—his wife. A successful marriage is one where husband and wife respects the boundaries of that relationship. These boundaries include protecting your marriage from intruders which may come in the form of infidelity, interfering family members, and meddlesome friends. Adam showed RESPECT to God’s command. If a man does not display respect before marriage, don’t expect a respectful husband after saying “I do.”

Lastly, Adam models the idea that first and foremost fellowship with God brings one from being a man to a good man. Adam had a relationship with God where he heard God’s voice and responded in obedience. God then blessed him with a human relationship. Looking into the Master’s classroom we learn if our spiritual relationship with God is out of whack, our human relationships will be out of whack. After exhibiting responsibility and respect, God created in Adam a desire and need for a permanent human relationship. A “player” can be responsible and respect God, but he may not see the need for a relationship with one woman. Just because he has a good job, opens the door for you, leads in the church, studies the Bible, and pays his child support that does not make him ready for marriage. Adam willfully decided upon a one God, one woman RELATIONSHIP. If a man is not faithful to his relationship with God and you before marriage, don’t expect a faithful relationship from your husband after saying “I do.

All the development of Adam was done before he could ever lay his eyes on a woman. Adam was ready for a woman, but, Eve was not ready for the man because she hadn’t been formed yet. Proverbs 18:22 says "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD." It is the man’s job to find a wife. This means a woman is shaped into a wife before a man ever finds her. And, before marriage, she sees her husband as her head and leader. She is already submissive.

Perhaps, you have not captured the eye of a "good man" because you have not become a wife. God could still be shaping you.

Daddy Date Night

Fathers--Every now and then take your daughter on a date. Show them how a man should treat them. You will teach them not to accept degrading, disrespectful, and demeaning actions from a man. Here's Earnest and daughter leaving for a "Father's Day" date.

 

 

Preach Pastor T!

Pastor Thomas preaching today at the New Creation BC Men's Conference. Sermon title, "Avoiding a Bad Haircut", Judges 16:18-22. Powerful word. To order a cd contact New Creation BC at 501-758-3588

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Where have all the good men gone……

Sisters are always wondering where are all the good men. Allow me to give you something to mull over.

In the beginning (Gen. 2:15-20), we see Adam working and taking care of the garden. Man was RESPONSIBLE. He had to become responsible as a single before he could take on the responsibility of marriage. He avoided the forbidden tree, so we see that he RESPECTED the things of God. If a man doesn't respect the things of God, he certainly won’t respect a woman. Lastly he felt the need for a meaningful RELATIONSHIP with another human. After naming all of the animals, Adam didn’t see another “like him.” A player can be responsible and respect God, but he doesn’t see the need for a relationship with ONE woman.

Don’t place your hopes in a man that is not RESPONSIBLE, RESPECTFUL of God, and doesn’t see the need for a meaningful RELATIONSHIP. It’s possible to think there are no good men if you keep gravitating to no good men.

All of this development of Adam was done before he could ever lay his eyes on a woman. Also, Adam was ready for a woman BUT Eve was not ready for a man because she hadn’t been formed yet.

Proverbs 18:22 says "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD." The man finds a wife, not a women. That mean she's already a wife. She already see her husband as head of the household. She is already a submissive wife. A man is looking for a wife. Maybe you have not captured the eye of a "good man" because you have not become a wife.


Sisters, your Boaz, Ray-Ray, Andre, Tom or Cephus just may be ready….perhaps it’s you that’s not ready for him. Perhaps God is still shaping you.


Earnest & Roline