Earnest and Roline conducting a Marriage Conference

Haiti 2012 Mission

Thankful to have been a part of my church's mission team. Testimonies and pics real soon. Stay tuned.

Speaking engagement

God can BLESS in a MESS

Below is a window on my house. The window screen on the left window is missing. A thief stole 4 screens off my windows including 2 in the back, one on the side, and one in front. What’s my point---it could have been worse. The thief could have broken into my house. The thief did not enter my house!

When you are “going through” a trial, test, storm, etc, focus on the BLESSOR and see His BLESSINGS in your life. See His protection in your storm. Remember, it could be worse. The thief comes to steal, kill and destroy.  I rest in peace knowing that the adversary can’t penetrate my spirit and steal what God has placed in me---His joy, His peace & His love.

Relationship 101: Where are the Good Men?

Earnest and Roline Thomas

We’ve heard many women ask the question, “where are the good men?” In this present day, we understand the concern. There are men in prisons, men struggling with homosexuality, men with children from multiple women, men unemployed, and men choosing to remain single. Certainly there is not a shortage of men, however, there is a shortage of men who are ready to be husbands.  So where are the good men? Exploring Genesis 2:15-20, the careful observer discovers principles which good men should possess.

God created Adam a man, but He had to prepare him to be a husband. We find Adam working and managing the Garden of Eden.  Through the assignment of cultivating the Garden, God taught Adam responsibility. Every day Adam went to work. This work may have seemed mundane and tedious, but the job was very much needed. There is nothing glamorous about being responsible but it is an integral part of being a good leader. Adam proved to be a RESPONSIBLE leader before becoming a husband.  If a man does not display responsibility before marriage, don’t expect a responsible husband after saying “I do.”

Adam avoided eating from the tree of good and evil as commanded by God. With this lesson God established boundaries for Adam. The lesson was simple. If Adam would not respect God, his creator, He would not be able to respect God’s creation—his wife. A successful marriage is one where husband and wife respects the boundaries of that relationship. These boundaries include protecting your marriage from intruders which may come in the form of infidelity, interfering family members, and meddlesome friends. Adam showed RESPECT to God’s command. If a man does not display respect before marriage, don’t expect a respectful husband after saying “I do.”

Lastly, Adam models the idea that first and foremost fellowship with God brings one from being a man to a good man. Adam had a relationship with God where he heard God’s voice and responded in obedience. God then blessed him with a human relationship. Looking into the Master’s classroom we learn if our spiritual relationship with God is out of whack, our human relationships will be out of whack. After exhibiting responsibility and respect, God created in Adam a desire and need for a permanent human relationship. A “player” can be responsible and respect God, but he may not see the need for a relationship with one woman. Just because he has a good job, opens the door for you, leads in the church, studies the Bible, and pays his child support that does not make him ready for marriage. Adam willfully decided upon a one God, one woman RELATIONSHIP. If a man is not faithful to his relationship with God and you before marriage, don’t expect a faithful relationship from your husband after saying “I do.

All the development of Adam was done before he could ever lay his eyes on a woman. Adam was ready for a woman, but, Eve was not ready for the man because she hadn’t been formed yet. Proverbs 18:22 says "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD." It is the man’s job to find a wife. This means a woman is shaped into a wife before a man ever finds her. And, before marriage, she sees her husband as her head and leader. She is already submissive.

Perhaps, you have not captured the eye of a "good man" because you have not become a wife. God could still be shaping you.

DON’T BELIEVE THE LIE - Arguing

Most of us were told "when you get married, you ARE going to argue.” The first year of my marriage, I endeavored to be the undefeated argument champion in my home. I didn’t seek to resolve conflict, I desired to WIN! After all, isn’t MY WAY THE WAY TO DO IT? So I thought!

A marriage is to glorify God. Marriage is to be a reflection of the relationship of Christ and the universal church. Keeping these two points in mind do you think you are glorifying God when you argue with your spouse? Do you think Christ argues with his people? Nowhere in the Bible do we see Jesus getting into an arguing match, so if Christ is our example of how to conduct ourselves, who are we patterning ourselves after when we argue in our marriage?

When a person tells you that you will argue in married, DON'T BELIEVE THAT LIE! It is a lie of the enemy. We must be careful of what we allow people to deposit in our spirit. If you believe you are going to argue you will argue, for the Bible says as a man think in his heart so is he.

The Bible does not tell us that couples are to argue. Conversely, it commands us to give respect to one another, to love one another, to be patient with one another , and to encourage one another. So why are we Christians buying into the lie?

As a couple, you both must agree to never argue again. God can give you that peace. I have been married to my husband for 19 years, with the last 18 being argument free!

The Bible says "Be angry and sin not" (Eph. 4:26). We have to learn to control our anger and not allow our anger to control us. Getting into yelling matches is losing control.

Yes, we will disagree as a couple on issues, however, a disagreement does not give cause to an argument.

Spread Love, not just on Valentine's Day

Love gives without EXPECTING anything in return! Relationships based on RECIEVING are destined for doom. When you give today to your spouse, boo, friends, loved ones, etc., give not because you expected them to give something to you or you feel obligated to give. Give just because you LOVE. Isn't that God's way? Indeed, it is! Spread REAL LOVE! Have a great day!